i've carried for about ten years now, and as a law enforcement officer, i was once in a weapons discharge incident, where we unfortunately had to engage an assailant. The perp in this case was carrying a .380 auto, and he got a head start on the draw.
there is no doubt that carrying a 45 was the difference between one life and multiple lives cost.
a 380 WILL NOT PENETRATE A VEST, and you can keep firing after it hits your armor
a 45 will imbed itself in the car door behind the targets chest.
For a lot of people, they think that bullet peformance has a lot to do with it. WRONG....
look at it this way, if your 9mm hydra shock doesnt expand on a perp like it does in geletan, because he's wearing a jean jacket, then all you've got is a 115 grain bullet that will barely break a rib on entry, and not likely penetrate the cavity....
now you have a bullet that measures less than .4 inches inside, and delivered virtually no shock. In addition to the light bullet of little diameter, you only have a single hole in your perp.... more holes= more trauma/faster blood loss.
even using a fmj wadcutter out of a 45, the bullet has 30% more surface area, and in addition has more than twice the weight/energy... you no longer have to rely on a risky "expansion" theory. And like i said before, the bullet will penetrate heavy clothing, the perp, and likely break his spine during exit, if aimed well. if not hit in the spine, you at least have a port hole in the perps back side.
most men, because of hand size can learn to shoot a 45 as fast as a 9, most women can shoot a 40 as fast as a 380.... Why unless concealed carry would you risk your life with anything less than the maximum you are comfortable with?
Practice.... practice... and become effecient, shoot solid bullets, with good sectional density.
thats my .02$ and i hope i didnt offend anyone.